Showing posts from October, 2018

The Tyranny of the Unempty Plate

It's a common story, I'm afraid.  As a kid, I'd decide I was finished eating and want to leave the table.  But there was still food on my plate, and that seemed like the worst crime next to murder to my mom.  "You stay here and clean your plate.  There are kids starving in India!"  It was never clear how me eating all the food on my plate could possibly help a starving child half a world away, but mom was deadly serious about it.  Every single time.

Sometimes the plate would still have food on it because it included some item (usually a vegetable) I wasn't crazy about.  Sometimes it was because I went for seconds and overdid it.  Sometimes I just couldn't deal with having leftovers of the same meal for the third or fourth straight night.  Sometimes I just wasn't that hungry.  It didn't really matter the reason, the response from mom was always predictable; "There are children starving in Africa!"  (Those starving kids got around.)

Do so…

Keeping the Treats Under Control

So I'd decided to make a lifestyle change, not a temporary diet.  And part of that lifestyle change was to eliminate most carbs.  That was easier said than done.  I mean, if you were to ask me to list off the foods I love, it would be filled with things like pizza, pasta, mashed potatoes, and burgers with fries.  Desserts and sweets?  Yes please.  And on top of all that, I work in a profession where we have a lot of catered meetings filled with sandwiches and cookies.  I could try to tell myself that I was just never going to have those things again, but that would be an existence of misery.

I was going to have to figure out a way to still let myself enjoy an occasional exception without letting things get out of hand.

I don't believe in cheat days for a couple of reasons.  I've seen people cheat on their diets, and it usually gets out of hand quickly.   There needs to be structure, because it's too easy to just declare any day a cheat day.  And declaring a specific d…

How to Eat Through Losing 200 pounds in 2 Years

So I'd decided to lose weight.  I was more than willing to make that possible, but I'd tried to diet in the past, and it never stuck.  Don't try to diet, my girlfriend told me.  Instead, make some sustainable changes and see what happens.  She wanted to get back into the shape she was in when she was a model and participate in fitness competitions, and she suggested we could push each other.  I had never thought about it from that perspective, and having someone in it with me was a welcome change.  We outlined several changes I should make, and I was more than willing to give them a try.  I now had a mission.

Over the course of the next several months, I built a new way of living.  I started with just a couple of changes, and once I had embraced and gotten used to those, I'd move on and add another.  Lifestyles are built over time, so expecting anyone to be able to change everything they do overnight is unrealistic.  Playing the long game is key.

Ultimately, l…

Choosing to Lose

If this were a movie, I would have magically turned my life around the moment I met my girlfriend.  Beautiful, free spirited, and so amazingly complex, she realizes my romantic ideal in almost every way possible.  I was so convinced that someone like her would have no interest in me that there's no way we'd be together today had she not made the first move.  I like to think that I'm the frog she chose to kiss.

Even after we became a couple, I continued my unhealthy habits.  Then a few months into our relationship, after I completely exhausted myself walking with her through the city, she pointed out that if we were to continue on and start a family, I'd need to be in enough shape to properly care for our children.  I'd tried to lose weight at various points in the past, and it had never really taken.  But this was different.  This wasn't about losing a few pounds for vanity or health, which if I had really been taking seriously, I wouldn't have let myself ge…

Welcome to My Journey

My name is Jerry, and I'm fat.  Actually, I'm obese.  More to the point, I'm severely obese.  But I had been not only morbidly obese, I was super obese, which surprisingly does not come with a cape.  

You see, two years ago, I was a couple pounds short of 500.  I've now lost over 200 pounds.  And I'm not stopping there.

It's been quite the journey getting to this point.  Not only the two years to lose 200 pounds, but also the 45 years spent getting myself into such a horrible shape to begin with.  I've found myself reflecting on that journey quite a bit of late, and I have a number of things to say about it.  Thus this blog.